Photo Blog that did not post yesterday

So. This WAS the blog for yesterday lol. I guess you'll just get two today. One photo, one to read...

Late Post

So, this is late, but it's been a busy day. I didnt want to miss one though. I'm actually in the middle of carnitas hell right now lol. I found this amazing recipe for tequila beer carnitas. The time says one hour, but, when you add the time in all of the steps up, it's over three hours. So, I'm STILL cooking at 1045 at night. Not that I really mind this though. I'm just saying for sayings sake. I'll post pictures tomorrow. AND, I found the orange beer!!! Good ol' Whole Foods. Jen told me that they'd have it. I should have just gone there in the first place. I will also post pictures of the beer :) I hope that everyone's had a wonderful day. Better post tomorrow, promise. Until then, here's a retro picture of Addison Love to all

Addison loves........????

There's kind of a running joke between certain sets of parents we know. We tease that Lachlan will be Addison's future husband and they will have beautiful grandchildren for all of us. When I say this however, I get responses like, "How do you know? Maybe she'll marry Ruby?" or "I so want her and Simone to date" to "She and J would be the best couple!" It's a really fun and cute running joke. Tonight though, it made me wonder a bit.

I've never heard of any straight parents worrying about their children's sexuality. Well, not in the sense that I feel gay and lesbian parents do. I'm sure that some overly macho, insecure men worry about their boys becoming gay and that some overbearing and insensitive mothers pray that their daughters arent 'ssshhh, Lesbians'. What I mean however, is, most straight parents dont say "Oh no, I hope Johnny doesnt turn out to be straight" or "I hope Beth isnt looking at boys". The awesome parents I know, dont give a flying eff. Some of the crazy parents I know hope for their children to be gay or lesbian for another reason to embrace them in life. I love you guys for that.

Gay and Lesbian parents worry about other things I think in regards to this issue. Some of us hope for our children to go down the heterosexual road. Out of fear that otherwise, they'd have to go through many of the trials and tribulations that we have and continue to. None of us want that for our children. We want them to live in a world that loves and accepts them for who they are and embraces who they are to become.

Some of us fear that if they were homosexual, that they'll experience hate, prejudice, shallow thinkers. It all stems from our own personal experiences I'm sure. The truth of the matter is, they'll probably experience some of, if not all, of these things in the world, regardless of how their sexuality turns out. One of the best things about many of the straight and gay parents I know is, that, in the grand scheme of things, the only thing that they want, is for their children to be insanely happy. No matter what that looks like in their future. Isnt that what any parent, gay or straight wants?

I'm a little jaded in my opinion of my parent friends, gay and straight. I feel that they're extra awesome and amazing parents, because most of them have had to work so hard and for so long, just to get to that point. Not to discredit other parents out there, but I feel that they are a cut above, because they really had to work to be parents. Hard. These people are open minded, kind, loving and completely human. In the end, we all worry, like any other parent. About things in general, and things that are unique to our situations. So, little Addison, what I want for you most is to be a great human being. And if that means that you love and marry Ruby, then I'll love you as much as ever. And Ruby too ;)

Monday

Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred. Day 5. Check. Complete.

So. It's Monday. One more day of work. My favorite part of coming home each day is Addson. Tonight she was pretty worn out from daycare, so I went to rock her to sleep while feeding her, and she was asleep within ten minutes. It makes me sad that I get so little time with her at night. The time I do get is so great though, that I dont feel like I have a lot of room to complain. Tonight's blog is just a picture share. Hope you like the cuteness :)

Anticipation

My wife asked me if I would mind blogging about Anticipation. I, of course, said, "No problem!" Why, isnt important at this time, but here I am. Anticipation. Webster's Dictionary defines Anticipation as the following:

Main Entry: an·tic·i·pa·tion
Pronunciation: \(ˌ)an-ˌti-sə-ˈpā-shən\
Function: noun
Date: 14th century
1 a : a prior action that takes into account or forestalls a later action b : the act of looking forward; especially : pleasurable expectation
2 : the use of money before it is available
3 a : visualization of a future event or state b : an object or form that anticipates a later type
4 : the early sounding of one or more tones of a succeeding chord to form a temporary dissonance — compare suspension

A good definition, but, as with anything Webster'esque, a little dry. So, I found this:

Anticipation or being enthusiastic, is an emotion involving pleasure (and sometimes anxiety) in considering some expected or longed-for good event, or 'irritation at having to wait'. Robert Plutchik listed anticipation as one of the eight basic emotions in his psychoevolutionary theory. See also hope. A name for pleasured anticipation is excitement.
Anticipation can be shown in many ways; for example, some people seem to smile uncontrollably during this period, while others seem ill or sick. It is not uncommon for the brain to be so focused on an event, that the body is affected in such a way. Stage fright is a type of anticipation, stemming from the actor or actress hoping that they perform well.

This makes sense to me. An emotion involving pleasure. Who of us hasnt known that? 'Irritation in having to wait'? I know we've all experienced that. Whether it be waiting to hear if we got 'the job', or, are we going to see that 'special someone' soon, or in general, is something we really want to happen, going to happen? The next three words surprised me, because they were only three little words, but so powerful:

See also Hope.

Hope.

The positive form of Anticipation for sure. There's no downside in hope. Hope is looking up, looking out. Longing. Anticipation. It's interesting how agonizing hope and anticipation can be, when it's in regards to something or someone wonderful, that you really want. Beautiful torture in some cases. How do you handle it? Relaxation techniques. Accept it and tackle it head on. Anticipate the unknown and pre-plan a rational way to deal with it. Let time create a managability. Throw your hands up and decide that fate will what it may? Or, maybe, by chance, do you embrace it for all it's worth and really sit with the moments?

Everyone has a different way of coping with anticipation, anxiety etc. Whether you use one of the ones previously mentioned, or have your own, I dont think any are wrong. If it works for you, do it. Make it your own. I suppose the best any of us can do with anticipation, anxiety, good or bad, is plan, prepare, practice… and then go with the flow.